Increasingly, the holidays are associated more with stress and depression than with jingling bells and caroling. When the stress of a difficult year or decade or lifetime coincide with the expectation of the “most wonderful time of the year,” we can experience cognitive dissonance—a feeling of internal conflict based on contradictory messages processed in our minds. The celebratory sentiments of the holidays sometimes compete with the realities of our lives, and we can feel subtly—sometimes overtly—pressured to feel happy when we feel quite the opposite.
This, of course, can happen at times other than just the holidays, but our society seems to place greater pressure on us to feel happy when the holidays approach. If you feel a sense of unhappiness, or if you are quicker to anger, you may simply need to gentle push toward greater understanding of the underlying causes of these feelings. Laurie Grengs can help you.
Laurie Grengs has more than three decades’ experience in counseling. The wisdom she has accumulated during the course of her professional career has helped many people come to terms with traumas of many kinds. Our society still tends to discourage us from seeking help for psychological issues, and though there are signs that that is changing, many of us seek this kind of help when there is a precipitating event that makes it immediately and obviously necessary to do so.
The Holidays are Experienced Differently By Each Of Us
The holidays tend to work on us differently. They reveal instead a more subtle accumulation of internal conflict and unresolved issues that can cause us to think that it’s normal to feel this way because it’s the holidays. In effect, the holidays become a convenient excuse to wait out those feelings. We convince ourselves that, once the holidays are over, the feelings will go away. And, to some extent, that may be true. But what happens when those same feelings return around your birthday or, more confusingly, at random times during the year? The holidays no longer function so conveniently, do they?
What the feelings of depression should be telling us is that they need to be resolved. With the assistance of someone like Laurie Grengs, we can get closer to resolution. So whether our issues are the longer-term, persistent but low-level depression that appear periodically or more specific and acute trauma, Laurie Grengs can be enormously helpful in the process of healing. Call (877) 572-2326 or email her directly at for more information about her practice or to make an appointment.