Even the most stable of marriages experience periodic turmoil or at least prolonged disagreement. Marriages that are not so healthy go through difficulty more often and likely with more intensity. It is almost certain that people experiencing marital problems of varying duration and intensity have not been trained to respond to those problems—we live in a society that values the fairytale more than the realities of relationships, and we tend to avoid conflict, rather than confronting it head-on. The good news for people in need of marriage counseling is that there are professionals like Laurie Grengs, who is based in Coon Rapids and also serves Ham Lake, MN, who have the training and wisdom to share with people who are less well prepared for the realities of marriage when the fairytale begins to show its limitations.
Marriage Counseling, Ham Lake MN
Laurie Grengs has practiced marriage counseling for over thirty-five years and has helped many people get their marriages back to a healthier state. She works with couples to identify the underlying causes of relationship issues and to create better and healthier patterns.
There is seldom an occasion when relationships can be healed by quick fixes. People who are committed to their relationships must also commit to doing the hard work necessary to identify and with hard work, improve their relationships. Laurie Grengs can help you find the new level of love you have been looking for.
Experienced Marriage Counselor
Laurie Grengs recommends couples consider the following steps toward a healthy marriage:
- Commit to acting from the love you have for your partner.
- Engage in behaviors that encourage better communication.
- When communicating with your partner, use “I” statements. Instead of taking the shortcut to say things like, “You did this to make me angry,” try something like, “When you drink, I feel scared.”
- Try to remove any agenda from your approach to the conflict. Trying to “win” a fight with your spouse means you’re competing with each other. However, if you have a mutual goal in mind of creating greater peace between you, competition really has no place. If you win, your spouse has to lose, but if you are mutually engaged in finding a better solution, both of you can “win.”
- Indulge your desire to do things outside of your relationship. Even an evening out once or twice a month with friends can give you relief from the stress you’ve been experiencing in your relationship.
- Be open and share your daily experiences with your partner.
- Always try to be empathic toward your partner.
If you live in or near Ham Lake, MN, call Laurie Grengs at (877) 572-2326 for more information about her services or to make an appointment.