Caring for a Guarded Person

self-guarding habits If there is one universal quality among human beings, it may be that we all—occasionally to habitually—build walls of protection around us. The reasons we do this are manifold and myriad, of course. It may be that our first love rejected us in grade school or that we lost a loved-one at a formative time in life or witnessed an event that traumatized us. Or it may be that we simply learned to protect ourselves when involved with other people.

Learning to Let Others In, Learning To Trust

We may argue persuasively that building walls is an occasionally necessary strategy in a world that can be unforgiving, cruel, and unpredictable. But it should be equally persuasive that we all benefit from learning to let others in. Whether you are that guarded person or someone who cares for someone who is guarded, Laurie Grengs can provide strategies that are helpful in understanding the reasons we become guarded and how to overcome the attendant patterns so that we can live a fuller, more connected life with others.

Whenever we have the experience of a new relationship—whether it’s a platonic friendship or something with the potential to grow into a longer-term primary relationship—we are challenged to trust. More fundamentally, even if we are in the midst of experiencing our own walls going up, the fact that we are also establishing a new relationship means that we are at some level attempting to overcome the limitations of our ability to trust. For many of us, the newness of the relationship gives way to the more familiar feeling of reluctance to trust, and we allow our self-guarding habits to kick in again. That we find comfort in familiarity is no surprise; that we can find comfort in familiarity even when its effects are detrimental to us should give us pause. But we convince ourselves that self-protection is necessary to our long-term well-being, and lose sight of the potential goodness we might add to our lives by taking the risk of letting our walls down.

Laurie Grengs Can Help You Let Down Your Walls

Laurie Grengs is a therapist skilled in the art of empathy, and her nature engenders trust in others. The person who seeks her assistance because they care for someone who is overly guarded is likely to receive insight into how to encourage the person they care for to open up. And the person who seeks Laurie Grengs’ assistance because they’re overly guarded has already taken the first and most important step in increasing their capacity for closeness with others. Call her today at (877) 572-2326 to make an appointment.