Signs of a Codependent RelationshipMarch 21, 2023
In a relationship, both sides often give as much as they take. However, in some cases, the opposite occurs. Codependency can take form in a few different ways that include people-pleasing, low self-esteem, and bad communication skills. Follow along as Laurie Grengs Counseling discusses signs of a codependent relationship.
Making Everyone Happy
Dealing with conflict in a relationship is not always easy. This is another reason people in codependent relationships tend to steer clear of confrontation. A people-pleaser gives up their own feelings and depends on validation from their partner. Sometimes it is hard for people-pleasers to say no or to speak their mind. More often than not, people-pleasers tend to change themselves completely for the person that they are with. Be true to yourself, cut out the excuses, and remember that it is okay not to be able to please everyone.
Playing the victim, jealousy, and not being able to express emotions are some signs of low self-esteem issues in a relationship. A codependent relationship often involves both partners having low self-esteem issues. One partner feels they need to control the other, helping them feel better about their problems and trauma. The other partner will sit there and let them control their thoughts, feelings, and moods. Boost their self-esteem by listening to them, throwing them a compliment, and never trying to control them.
Lack of Communication
Communication is key to a happy and healthy relationship. Do not expect a significant other to understand you just through actions. Communication helps you express your needs, wants, and feelings. If you bottle those up inside, it can lead to depression, stress, and resentment towards your partner. Ask questions, set time aside to have a discussion, and listen to your significant other to avoid miscommunication.
A relationship can be a true test of someone’s character. Happy and healthy relationships consist of good communication, high self-esteem, and caring—not just for your partner, but for yourself as well. If you or your partner feel like you are in a codependent relationship and you’re looking for more help, please contact Laurie Grengs Counseling. I am here to help you and your partner navigate life through stressful times.
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