Have you reached a point of recognition that you have been in an abusive relationship and you need help? Laurie Grengs is an experienced counselor who has extensive expertise in helping people who are in abusive relationships. Abuse in relationships can manifest in many different ways, so it can help to become familiar with some of the more general components of abusive relationships so that you can recognize yourself in them.
What Is An Abusive Relationship?
Abusive relationships can be characterized as those that have elements of manipulation, fear, intimidation, and guilt, which are used to control one of the two members of the relationship. Those behaviors tend to undermine your self-confidence and your sense of autonomy. The person who engages in the abusive behavior typically gains your trust before initiating the abuse. Their behaviors can be subtle and plausibly denied, which creates confusion and often greater reliance on the abuser. The subtle nature of some abusive behaviors makes it hard to recognize that it is even happening. Regardless of how smart, confident, capable, or self-aware you consider yourself to be, it is still possible to fall into the subtle traps of an abusive person.
Signs Of An Abusive Relationship
You may still have doubts that you are in an abusive relationship. But perhaps the following signs can help you gain some clarity about your relationship.
- If you feel the need to “walk on eggshells” in order to avoid your partner’s unpredictable moods, you may be in an abusive relationship.
- If you have begun to feel isolated from friends and/or family, you may be in an abusive relationship. Abusers seek control of the person they abuse, and an easy way of doing that is to separate them from people who might recognize abusive behavior.
- If your partner accuses you of being selfish when you simply ask for love, affection, or other kinds of personal regard that we all deserve, you may be in an abusive relationship. Abusers understand that their partners are sensitive to being called selfish, so such accusations become effective ways of gaining more control.
- If your partner ridicules you or dismisses your concerns, it may be a sign of an abusive pattern in your relationship.
- Excessive blame or emotional punishment may also be present in your relationship.
- If you ever feel fear in the presence of or intimidated by your partner, these are more obvious signs of an abusive relationship.
Experienced Counselor Supporting Those in Abusive Relationships
If you have concerns that you are in an abusive relationship, Laurie Grengs can help you navigate and find your way out of the relationship. To schedule a counseling appointment, call 763-572-2326 or 877-572-2326.