Grief is inevitable after we experience a loss—the more significant the loss, the deeper and more difficult the grief. Of course, we all experience grief individually, and therefore our experience of grief will be unique to our personalities. But when we think of the generalities that can be drawn from our human experiences, certain larger truths emerge. The first sentence in this paragraph is a case in point: Grief is inevitable after we experience a loss. Whether we lose a loved-one after a prolonged illness and are therefore theoretically better prepared for it, or we experience the sudden, tragic loss of a loved-one, we will enter a period of grief as a response to the tragedy.
How To Manage When You Are Told “Life Goes On”
Regardless of the circumstances that cause our grief, we hear that “life goes on.” If we are lucky, the people in our lives offer support, patience, understanding, flexibility, and honesty. If we are really lucky, those helpful responses will also come from the people in our workplaces. Eventually, we will head back to our workplaces after experiencing loss. Typical of this experience is that we convince ourselves that we are ready to go back to work, and it may or may not be true. One indisputable aspect about grief and trauma recovery is that it is work, but the work is well worth it.
Grieving At Work
Returning to work while experiencing grief can be overwhelming and difficult, likely because we cannot properly prepare for the emotions that emerge when we combine our private loss with our public work personae. Like it or not, most of us are at least slightly different people at work than we are home. So it’s best to be prepared for the eventualities that may become our experiences on the job. There are some things that most of us can expect from the experience of returning to work while grieving.
- We are understandably more tender and sensitive. While trying to reintegrate into our work environments, we are likely to be overcome by emotions that seem more appropriate for our home environments.
- Our emotions will not necessarily match the mood of the workplace, causing an uncomfortable gap between our emotional state and the normal currents of the office.
- Our grieving is likely to be more fluid. It can literally feel as though it comes in waves. And that may not be convenient for the expectations of our work environments.
Fortunately, though, there are services like those provided by Laurie Grengs to help us manage the emotional ups and downs of the grieving process. There is no nobility in responding to loss with steely emotion. It’s best to seek the assistance of someone kind, caring, and experienced, such as Laurie Grengs during this difficult process. Call her at 1-877-572-2326 to make an appointment.